Saoirse Ronya Frida Castenmiller

Ride The Waves

May 12th, 2025 – Monday

Dear Saoirse

Today we have planned our ceremony with you to say goodbye on Friday in the crematorium. It felt both surreal and important to organize these moments that will honor your brief but profound presence in our lives.

Daddy had to go to the municipality to sign you in. This was a very odd thing to do because he needed to sign you in in Oss and at the same time send a document of your passing to the municipality in Nijmegen. These formal requirements feel so strange when compared to the deep emotions we’re experiencing, but they are part of acknowledging that you were here.

We received so much love again today, so many beautiful people reached out and surrounded us with care. We went through a deep healing thanks to our loving friends. Their support helps us navigate these difficult days, and we feel you in every kind word and gesture.

A funny note today is that daddy wanted to blow out a candle but that was surely not what you needed to be done because his hair caught fire and the candle is still burning! Daddy lost a bit of his mustache too! Perhaps you were sending a little reminder that your light should keep shining, or maybe you were giving us a moment of unexpected laughter in these heavy days.

Tonight we will choose the music and design a beautiful card for you. We want every detail to reflect the love we feel and the special place you hold in our hearts. Selecting songs that speak to your spirit and creating a card that captures your essence feels like another way to honor you.

With endless love, Mommy and Daddy

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