Saoirse Ronya Frida Castenmiller

Ride The Waves

May 15th, 2025 – Thursday

Dear Saoirse

I am writing this after the ceremony because towards the ceremony everything got more hectic. The last things needed to be arranged and we were living in a blur of preparations and emotions.

Your mother made a lot of milk for you and we took a moment to bless your precious body with this milk. We put it on your head, arms, legs and your body. Your body changed a bit in color when we did this – a gentle reminder of the connection between you and mama that continues even now.

Then we dressed you in a “hippie dress” with flowers, and to make you even more loveable, we put on a blue hat which made you look like an old school plane pilot. You made us smile in that moment – our little aviator ready for flight. We spent precious time in bed with you, first alone with daddy, then with the three of us together as a family.

Mommy and daddy needed to leave for a little bit to take care of final arrangements, and oma looked after you. She also had a smile when she saw you dressed up like this – you brought joy even in our deepest sorrow.

This was our last night together, the three of us. We held onto every moment, knowing tomorrow would bring our goodbye. But tonight, you were simply our daughter, our little selkie, peaceful and beautiful in our arms.

Love always, Mommy and Daddy

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